Why do women have to suppress their sexuality for him to want to marry her?

Should Women suppress their sexuality to be considered or marriage???
this is ridiculous.  On one hand we say we are not in the arch ages and on the other hand when it applies to women and expressing themselves as such we are expected to function like the 1500s.

The double standard rule is  so comical, I am not sure I understand how it still is used today.  But it is.  You can see this type of behavior on all levels.  So it goes to show you, someone out there still believes it and teaches it.

What is wrong with a woman being honest about her sexual needs.  Isnt it wonderful that she is comfortable enough to express it?
What if she hid her sexual prowness from her husband becaue he is afraid he cant hang.  yep I said it... cuz I believe that is why.   but what if she hides how she feels and has to go outside of the home to get her needs met.  To have someone care for her without judgement.  sound familiar???

I think women are tired of being treated like sex is their only quality until she ctually wants it for herself.

watch the video and let me know your thoughts.
ciao
#speakingmymind #10minsorless

How to travel light; 20 days - 1 back pack!!!

My newest crave is packing as light as possible.  Why?  well lets try to save on bag fees which are out of this world now, Avoid waiting for a checked bag,  mobility and learn how much you don't really need.
AND
I wanted to know if I could do it.
20 whole days, 2 continents, 14 flights, temps ranging from 45-88 degrees.
 Can I pull this off?  Well, this was the packing effort.  I just returned from my trip and well...I did it!!
crazy so much fits in this back pack by Hynes Eagle!! I did have to check my bag a few times, but I understand the game more and will do a blog just for you guys on flights.

so anyway, check out my tips in the video and see how you can be an official backpacker too.

Chocolate 'Fill Me Up' bites

I'm gonna call these Chocolate 'Fill Me Up' bites...

Steel cut oats

Whole grains

Carob powder

Local honey

Walnuts

Ask me How...

Beet and Goat cheese flatbread

Beet artichoke arugula flatbread with goat cheese.. And my homemade marinara.. Chiiilllleee.. So yummy.. Simple and satisfying... inspired from True Food Kitchen in Dallas

Plant based Pesto Pasta

Vegan or vegetarian can be yummy and FLAVORFUL 🔥🔥

Plant based pasta

Artichoke

Spinach & arugula

Mixed baby tomatoes

My homemade pesto with no pine nuts or parmesean.. . 

I love the taste of Basil🌱

Would you try this?? ? 

It's⏬

Simple and satisfying... 

WTxFF Women's Texas Film Fest 2019

By Frugal Chick Ali

If you wanna see what women can do BEHIND, In front, and Around the camera....WTxFF is where you need to be!

2019, Year 4 and the festival is Heck-a exciting!
The energy of support is unparalled. 

Imagine if there was no need for creating inclusive events like this.. When women in film was no longer taboo or a scarcity.. 

.. Imagine.... 

So let's Meet the women behind WTXFF.. 

Justina Walford (Founder/Artistic Director, WTxFF), Kim Cousin (Executive Director, WTxFF), Erin Prather Stafford (President, Board, WTxFF), Stacy Gipe Thiele (WTxFF, Board of Directors, WTxFF), Audrey Palmer (Board of Directors, WTxFF), Melina Guravich (WTxFF), Lisa Normand (WTxFF). 

All these extraordinary women bringing their own special talent to this festival hosted in the heart of DALLAS!!!. 

WHAT CAN YOU EXPECT? 

WILL IT BE ALL HARLEQUIN ROMANCE TYPE FILMS? 

WILL IT BE QUALITY WORK ANYONE WOULD ENJOY... 

just a few questions asked.. 

A: The festival is filled with EVERY SINGLE GENRE of film, Diversity, Inclusion, variety. What's unique is there is a WOMAN or MANY playing some leading role in the film from Director, Producer, Actor, Editor, Sound etc.... 

A: WOMEN can produce more than love based film... Check out the fest to get a taste of your own! 

A:

Of course it's QUALITY.. Like other tests.. WTxFF prides herself 😜 on just that, while making sure you enjoy everything the first has to offer...

While my responses will clear up the questions.. Pictures are worth a THOUSAND words

So I'll just show ya!! 

Belize....By SHIP and LAND

By Frugal Chick Ali

Caye Caulker
Solo Travel Rating:
Walkability:

Taxi:
Lodging: Airbnb, Hotels & Hostels


San Pedro
Solot Travel Rating:
Walkable:

...This is a short picture log of my Belize trips. ( most pics lost).. Such a bummer.. Always back up your photos!!

Anyway, One trip was via a cruise in 2014 and the next was ALL land or should I say IsLAND in 2015!! 

It is One quaint yet Beautiful Country

It'll is such a great place it is on my list of places to live... Yep... That good. 

My first trip was by Carnival Cruise the Magic.. Loved the boat ( first time cruising) 

Out of Galveston in June - peak season so prices we're like a third higher.. After going to Belize for only 8 hrs, I knew it was way too short. Of course I got a nice introduction to the country.. But it was just enough to set my soul on FIRE🔥

I did an inland tour to the Mayan ruins and thru Belize City... And I wanted more... 

My second trip was in Nov 2015 and we hit 2 islands!! 

RT flight out of Dallas was around $273, one Airbnb was $32 per night (4) and other was $49 per night (4).. Split for 2 ppl.. 

You can not beat that!!? My frugalness tingles at saved $$$.

First thing though....make sure you have enough time to catch the water taxi over to the islands.. At that time, only flights landed at like 4pm and last water taxi was at 4:30pm.

I remember everyone telling us we weren't gonna make it due to traffic etc... 

But we were determined.. We got a cabie and he said he would do his best to get us there... 

I also secured an Airbnb in the city just in case we d8d not. This person knew our situation and made arrangements to allow us to cancel day of arrival if we didn't need it. 

 How sweet!!!! Don't see that too often.. 

Anyway WE MADE IT!!

We decided to do 8 days total. First was Caye Caulker which is approx 5mi circumference for the entire island.. Meaning you can walk from one end to the other in say 20ish minutes. 

Main transportation is bikes and golf carts.. No cars

We found a really cute and inexpensive quad apartment on the far end of the island close to the airport strip. 

We loved it.. Great owner who met us and perfect amount of space for $32 per night.. It was a one bedroom with kitchen, outdoor porch and eating area and rooftop seating and hammocks.. 

I did my yoga there.  It was beautiful. We had access to bikes and a machete to cut our own coconuts!! 

Say what... Well of course I did 😜

Before  my trip was over, I was determined to swim across this channel that cut between Caye caulker, and this other island  so that I could jump off of this tree branch into the ocean like everyone else was doing..

Problem is I can't swim at least not enough to swim across the ocean channel to the other side, so a cool kid that worked on one side, volunteered to swim me across the other side. He was so awesome. 

I finally jumped!!  No life jacket and can't swim.

REMEMBER: Move slow and enjoy...

there is only one hospital and 2 cemetaries.....

Be careful of those sand flies and the more you go inland off the islands the more bugs you see.  Or maybe it was the time of year or the temperature..

And you'll never guess the pesky-est creatures are the crabs... they rummage through the garbage like raccoons and rats.. Eeek

Caye Caulker  was awesome and I met some really nice islanders and expats there.. 

Next up water taxi to San Pedro/Ambergris Caye..area well known for the divers beautiful blue hole. 



San Pedro is much bigger and tons more going on of course.. Cars, buses, motorbikes, jeeps for rent. Events, nightlife, housing subdivisions, restaurants galore..  You name it!! 

The apartment we rented on this side was awesome. We ended up getting a great break because the one bedroom, we rented for 49 dollars a night wasn't available, so we got the master suite on the top floor, which gave us full kitchen full living room, 2 separate master bedroom suites with balconies on both sides and we were a step across the street from the beach. The owner and the manager were both awesome, they took great care of us. That's one of the cool things about staying with someone or doing an airbnb  is oftentimes you can build relationships with those folks. They were so helpful and made sure we felt safe and comfortable. It was great there's also other sharing companies out there now, you have homeaway, couchsurfing, there's also a workaway. So many different ways for you to visit different places and meet people and either stay with them or meet up, so you have other people to hang out with, so anyway check those out. 

I really enjoyed the freeness of both islands. 

Even though I was with a friend she and I did a lot of our own things so it was like a solo trio and I was really comfortable walking around, exploring etc..
you reall can't go wrong with the food.  Find yourself an eatery with outside seating (everywhere) have some rice, beans and your choide of veggies or chicken or carne.  You really can't beat that.

Monkey habitat

The island I wish to purchase

Taking a quick flight inland... Yep it's a crop duster but it was short and safe..

Views from the crop duster

Shooting Belize Tv show - Morning Matters!

Which is better...TSA, GE, OR CLEAR by Frugal Chick Ali

UPDATE 1/6/2020 - on CLEAR … New User!!

For my Traveler FAM..
Do you EVER get frustrated waiting in long security and int'l entry lines at the airport??? 

So you watch you friends leave you and go to shorter lines or areas to get through security. They aren't taking stuff out of their bags, not taking shoes and belts and laces and eyelashes off.. You know what I mean.. Like you almost disrobe to go through security and I understand that some is for safety measures.. But imagine 100, 200, 500 ppl in line doing the same thing . 

Imagine this......

getting to the airport 2-3 hrs early for your international flight.. You are all good.. Or so you think...It's peak travel season and school is out sooo... Didn't think about that...OH MY GOSH! there is a travel group and strollers and massive taped boxes and luggage galore. 

That 2-3 hours dwindles and dwindles.. Then after you check in you go to security.. But you can't even see security cuz the lines are so long 🤪. I mean like amusement park line long. 

Should you start taking all your clothes off now to save time..?? All the while watching people wizz by you for that pre chk and Clear line.. Wondering how did they get that? 

You just knew you were gonna be on the other side having your coffee and pastry  flipping through emails, texts and SM by now... But you aren't... 

Don't make the same mistake next flight!!

I have GE and am considering CLEAR..
**Update** I registered for CLEAR on my way out of Dallas on my air cruise. It took 5 mins literally and I got 3 mos free trial.  They said now I can arrive at the airport 30 minutes before flight and zip through.  I did not believe that, but 3 mos free trial lets give it a shot.

Jan 1, 2020 on my way back from my 20 day air cruise around Europe and Africa I got a chance to check out the validity of the 30 min statement at FLL airport.  I arrived at 6:33 pm for a 7:05pm flight.  It literally was the quickest.  Walked up to my gate which was boarding for my flight and wahhhla, I was on.  Not to mention it was a SW flight which means I did not have to check any bags due to their amazing baggage options 2 free onboard and 2 free checked.
So verdict.... it works!!!

☯TSA PRE✔ good for 5 years -$85
☯Global entry if you travel abroad.. Good for 5 years (includes TSA PRE✔) -$100

** this process took less than 1 week for me to submit by application, get a response and within the next few weeks I had my scheduled appt. 

The interview itself took 7 mins. I timed it 😁. Then I received my card a wk or so later in the mail.**

☯Clear is good for 1 year -$179

Check out this article which explains the options you have.. Cost and benefits.. 

http://flyclear.com/clear-versus-tsa-precheck-versus-global-entry/

Don't waste your travel time.. Standing in lines... 😜

Ciao

#wheresali

Homemade Spicy Kimchi

Made a lil spicy kimchi....

Napa cabbage

Green onion

Pepper sauce

Salt

Ginger

Ask me how

#kimchi #MYBS #smallbatch  #napacabbage #EatwithAli #vegan #vegetarianrecipes #healthyrecipes #goodfood #foodie #eat #wheresAli

YUMMY!! No meat butter lettuce tacos

Yummy butter lettuce tacos

No meat no meat

But packed with protein
Butter Lettuce

Quinoa
Seitan
Black rice
beans
green onion
tomato..
Green verde sauce
Simple and satisfying...

Right side Up or Upside Down

In life we are either right side up or upside down....

Emotionally, professionally, personally...
And it matters..
It matters how we got there and if we need to right ourselves.

Often times we get in situations and we dont know how.. Have you ever been driving down the street or highway and 20 mins later you look up and cant remember the last 20 mins?? It happens to me alot.. Its drifting, or distractions that cause us to zone out.  Its like life... One minute you are 22 finishing college, looking for a job or maybe working somewhere you like and you look up and you are 35, with kids, in a job you may hate, bills galore etc..
And you say... What??? Wait!!!
How did I get here, this is not what i planned...
There is nothing like waking up.. Coming out of a daze..and feeling turned upside down.
Either we stay that course because its where we are at that moment and it must be destiny right? * not always.. It may just be decisions but we will talk about that another time...
Or we try to upright ourselves.
We may reach out to family or friends, we may work harder trying to work ourselves out of it...
We may pray..
Well I do a little of each.. And I incorporate Yoga and meditation... Why? Because in my world.. None of it is wrong.. There is a place for it all.

The peace and direction from yoga and meditation clear my vision both figuratively and physically.
I have learned to quiet my mind and while my mind is quiet... To heal my body through movement.
It's like playing a movie in slow motion.. You see where you are emotionally and physically and your body and mind speak to you.
Am I happy, am I at peace, am I living the life I have envisioned or am I barely surviving, hanging on. If I am barely survivng, the movie is playing slow enough for me to begin to see where Im upside down, what area am I inbalanced..

At that point.... I can decide if I stay the course or change it....
Of course nothing is easy or fast...
But figuring out when you are upside down or right side up is a major accomplishment...

What works for you?

Next:
Yoga asanas to aide in opening us up.

#WheresAli #yoga

Road to Peace of Mind - The Giver

Lots of people show up when you are successful or have abundance and freely give to them or they know that they can ask you for anything, and the answer is usually yes. 

Those people don't know how hard it is for you to say no because in your heart, You are a true giver, and even when you know someone is using you and taking advantage of you and then ridiculing you all while they've got their hands stretched out to you for your help, You still give, you still smile kindly....

And while it's not ok to be treated that way... it's ok because you don't control others intentions or actions. 

Remember, it's not about what they'll get for how they treat you, but it's about what you're gonna get for how you treated them. 

There is a blessing in being a blessing.  

Even if people walk around and say you are stupid, it's your fault, your silly for hanging around so long, for not seeing the signs, for allowing that treatment.. 

They can't see you are made from a different cloth. The cloth of love and protection and it's just in your nature to be good to people.  Continue to see the good in all things.. But Learn to protect yourself, your peace, your space and your energy....when it's possible. Even God had to shake things up and reclaim his peace... but never stop loving and never stop giving. 

Everything that happens is predicated on what we have done.. 

Ali💜☯

Dear Frank Dallas Red Carpet screening & Movie Review by Ali

Dear Frank felt more like...Ohhhh Nooo Frank....

With  Brian White, Claudia Jordan, Columbus Short, Kearia Schroeder, Fella Soul, Joey Napoli, Nicholas Turturro.... 

*Release Date Nov 10, 2019

Dallas, TX welcomed the 30 city tour premiere charity screening of Dear Frank on 10/18 at The Black Academy of Arts and Letters where proceeds will fund youth arts and education programs at TBAAL. Special thanks to Mudd Films & Webber Films. 

Actors Brian White, Claudia Jordan, Kearia Schroeder, Fella Soul were present at the screening and took time to chat about their endeavors and this tour. They also held a QA along with an after party and listening session after the screening at J.F.Keg Bar & Kitchen. What  a night!! 

So I bet you're wondering what the hype is about?? 

Well.... Let me tell you! 

This is story about a lovely couple, who keep daily diaries and have the perfect life or so it seems.. Until an untimely death makes everyone question who they are, and what they thought they knew about one another. 

How often are you watching a movie and one minute you love everybody, the next minute, you hate everybody, you have no idea what's about to happen?? You think you know and BAM!! They get you again! 

Had me saying WTW over and over!! 

You got evil, you've got mischief, you've got faux families, lies and sex.. Well tons of sex, murder, comedy... More lies...Not the Priest and the Doctor...AND an unexpected ending! 

Y'all don't leave your diary around!!!!! 

The storyline is real. While the content was heavy, it really makes you sit back and think for a minute.. The way comedic lines were written and enacted was so intelligently done that you could still capture the essence of the film without there being inappropriate humor based on the real life heavy topics. 

I applaud the writers and actors for tackling really tough issues. Mental health, Sexual addiction,  Abuse, Depression, as well as hitting on kind of the decline of the mind when there is no accountability and fear, hatred and anger take over. 

Each actor did a phenomenal job portraying their character in this type of film with only 10 days of shooting and 65 pages of script and it's an independent film.

Go out support THIS FILM & actors and the 30 city tour..

They may be coming to a city near you. Check @dearfrank.movie for details

I can't wait to see what each of these stars has for us next!!! 

Rating: I Give it an Ali - BAM!! 

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Ratings:

BAM - Great! Go see it

PEACHY - amusing & pleasurable

HUMDRUM - Ehhh

RUBBISH - well it's Rubbish

Meatless Jerk Zucchini

Spiraled zucchini,
fieldroast sausage,
portabella,
tomato
,red onion and jerk sauce...

It was yummy
Ask Me How to go meatless and still feel full!!

Loaded Homemade Kale chips

So i was just mixing things up and said..hmmm i need some Super food!

I have so much to do...

So This was amazing dish...

Crispy Kale chips

Red quinoa

Egg (farm raised, cage free..ideal)

Ali home made sauce

Let me tell you I was NOT expecting that BURST of goodness in my mouth!!

OMG.. no lie my sauce is addicting!!

Those who have tried it..please share your thoughts...

Time to start selling it...Small batches.. I need a name..

Maybe I'll run a name campaign and GIVEAWAY a few jars to the winner... Anyway #AskAli how...

Incentives available for SM posting and reviews...

Alic@zebyali.com 

#egg #superfood #eat #goodfood